Mom Dreams…Deferred

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Welcome to Reinventing This Shitshow. A podcast for moms who are just trying to make it through the day I'm Millie and I'm Maxine. We're friends. We're moms. We're having a midlife crisis. Join us.

So Mildred. Call me Millie. How the fuck... Oh, sorry. Millie, Millie. How was your week? Tell me, because I didn't really talk to you earlier this week. So what the fuck's going on? Right? Because I refused to talk to you. Because...save it for the podcast.

I know, but really great. Shall we start with, The fact that my back fucking hurts again. Yeah.

No. Because you don't want me to perseverate on it. I told you, you are perseverating on it. I am. I am, [00:01:00] but that's why I have you so that I can perseverate and vomit it all. I know, then I can feel better that I vomited at you. And then. But it's that whole like CBT, right? This cognitive behavior shit. So like you have this negative thought in a loop. Yes. And so your brain just keeps that loop going. So you got to break the loop and put something else. I have a therapy appointment on Monday. Perfect. Perfect. With my amazing therapist, who is a pain reprocessing therapist. That's right. Cause you were like way into that shit. I am super into that shit because the pain that I'm in right now was my 24/7. I know you had really bad shit. You know, Yeah. You've been there. Yeah. But, yeah, so like this, this level of pain was constant for me, constant, constant, constant for years, really. And like working with her, this is a flare up. And I'm freaking out about it. Treat it as a flare up. It is a flare up. Yeah, no. So no one wants to hear about it anyway. Your week. We went to a coffee house yesterday that I felt [00:02:00] was subpar. It was subpar let's not name it. We're not going to name it, but I wanted to love it. It was very like hipster and fucking oat milk everywhere, which I'm a big fan of. But it was only oat milk and I love soy milk. I know that is...Everyon'e over soy milk I guess. No, everyone's over it. FYI it does not cause cancer. I know, I know, but you know how everybody is. But I am an oat milk gal. So I was, I was super psyched about it and it was fucking garbage. And I liked your hot chocolate. Ew. But maybe it was because I was drinking the oat milk latte with no sugar in it. So... your avocado toast looked nice. It was, I would have shared it, but it had gluten in it. So I couldn't, you know, can't have that glutes. No glutes anyway, so, okay. So back. Let's talk about, we are going to talk about this a little bit, but you had an audish earlier this week. And so we're waiting to hear on that. So, yeah. Good vibes for that shit. So like, since there's people listening who don't know me, [00:03:00] I'm a theater gal. We talked about this in episode one. That's your, that's your thing? That's my shtick. That's how my husband and I met, which is, oh my God. I can't even believe that he, anyway, go on. Damn. He was so cute. Sorry, I'm sorry. Here's some shower time in the making. He is. He is like your brother

Anyway. Yeah. So I auditioned for a show locally. it's like a little juke...jukebox musical. Not really my thing. I'm more of like a legit singer, Yeah, always wanted to be good at this stuff, but never really. I just wasn't. I was just not my voice. but it seemed okay. Like I, I did pretty good. Yeah. I got the call back. It was weird because I was the only person at the callback for the role that I was called back for. But I think that's good dudes, like really? Okay. Except they called two other people back. They just weren't there. So I'm not really sure how that works. Like if you don't actually come to [00:04:00] callbacks, like, did they have a separate call back? I don't know. Maybe. It was super fun. I saw a couple of people I've done it before. We did some singing. It was fun. It took me back to like my high school, jazz choir days, you know? Four part harmony, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, it was really fun. So even if I don't get in the show, that was super fun. Oh, Oh, see, you're doing that shit. Like it was just an honor to be nominated. No, but that really was fun because I wasn't sure like. Do I want it really? Do I want to do a show. And that's a good point. You it's been a minute. It's been, it's been a minute. It's been five years. I was supposed to be in Chicago. We were rehearsing. Yeah. I refer, I don't remember what song it was, but we were like crawling, like literally crawling on top of each other. In the middle of COVID. Ew, guys stop. And the director finally was like, you know what? We can't. This, no, we can't do this anymore. Like you guys are breathing like literally sweating and touching each other. You can't do. We're done. And he sent us all home. And that was it. The show was over, like it was, it did not happen. Yeah. [00:05:00] Yeah, which it should not have happened because it was a public health risk, but it made me sad. No, yeah. I kind of. I mean, it just, everything at that time, fucked us all up big time. Yeah. Yeah. So anyway. So anyway, we're waiting to hear. Fingers crossed . Supposed to hear four days ago. Now I'm supposed to hear today. You'll hear. We'll see, you know, it's community theater, everybody's working their asses off. Yeah. Yeah. And doing their best. Yeah. And it is what it is and whatever. I just don't like uncertainty. It's not my thing. No, and you, you know, you have a timeline and you want the timeline to be accurate and you thought you were going to hear today. And so far we haven't. And what the fuck? Right .No, I get it. But, you know what? It's it's going to be good. If I'm in it, that's awesome. If I'm an understudy that might actually be more awesome because I don't have to commit to every single show. True that. ButI think I have to be available for every single show, but not go on. So that might be a weird, I don't know. I feel like understudies work harder sometimes. Yeah, and it would [00:06:00] be there's two understudies for four roles. So. Fuck. Yeah. I don't know that I can handle learning two roles. No, that's a lot. I don't, I don't know that my brain... that's a lot, man. Yeah, I don't know about that. But anyway, so when you're done with your thesis then you can do a show. Listen. You and I had a little chitchat about that earlier. Yeah. And I that's totally how I feel too. I'm gonna have so much fucking free time when I'm done with my dissertation. Like, what the hell am I going to do besides work ? And your...your middle kid. Yeah. Boy two's about to graduate. So then girl is the only one at home because one and two are out. Yeah. Yeah, I'm going to have a shit load of time. You're not going to know what to do with yourself. No, and I'm quite comfortable with that. Actually, actually, what's going to happen is this podcast is going to take off. Right. We're not gonna have any time. Because we're going to be like touring and writing books. Because that's what everyone does, right? God. People man, all the fucking [00:07:00] people. I know. I mean, like, I love time if you love people, this isn't for you? No, like, I love you, but like, look, you don't like me to get up in my space, but like, Right. We can stay home and love people. Right. Yeah, but you know, I don't know all my favorite podcasts. They go from podcast. No, no. I mean, look at smartless, you know, like that's literally the only podcast I listen to. They were already famous. Okay. But nobody like they went on tour. I know they were already famous, but they weren't like crazy famous. They were for me. Did they go on tour for Smartless? Yes, it was fucking amazing. That's cool. They. They are the coolest guys on the planet. Oh, yeah, no, I'm sure. Yeah. Sean Hayes. But here's the thing. So like Jason Bateman. Love that motherfucker, my entire life. Will Arnett, too. And Sean Hayes too, but like in different like seasons. Yeah. [00:08:00] And I'm a huge Arrested fan. I'm a huge Will and Grace fan, I'm a huge Ozark fan, even though that fucking show scared the shit out of me. Don't spoil it. I, we watched multiple seasons. Holy fuck nuts. I'm telling you. They took a sabatical and you you know how it happens. You binge binge binge. Now there's a sabbatical. Now you got to re-binge everything. Why aren't you doing that? I don't know. It's rough to watch, but God it's good. My husband and I have not watched anything in six months. We're watching Good Girls right now. I've never seen that. Fucking good. I like good girls. Yeah. It's nothing like that. But you need to watch Good Girls actually, actually you need to watch Good Girls. Yeah. Yeah. It's. Yeah. Yeah. What is that? These? No, I don't want to fucking tell you because you need to know. Okay. Is there a premise that I need to know before? No, no, no, no comedy or. Both. It's a dramedy. Okay. Dramedy. Is it like snarky and.. Yes. Okay. [00:09:00] I'm in. But also suspenseful. It's got it all, man. It's all of it. Okay. So that's, yeah. I didn't even catch up, so we didn't know. So. Okay. So I'm waiting to hear about a show. Yeah, and my back hurts. What about you?

Okay. so boy, two. what's it called? Oh, this is so bad. He committed. Right. He's been recruited by this school in North Carolina and he has officially committed. He's running for them. I love it. College athlete division two. Yep. Track track and cross country. He's a distance guy. So we're fucking thrilled for him. You know, he's just, he's such a good dude. And this is really exciting, super excited. So that was "woo hoo-y" beginning of the week. I turned in a rough draft of chapter two of my dissertation. Yeah. So I'm pretty stoked about that. It's garbage and I expect my...We call it a shitty first draft. But I knew that it was, but it's, it's [00:10:00] fucking in man. So it's in, I'm waiting for my chair to submit some shit back to me so I can keep going. And then I have an interview on Tuesday for a job that I really want. So I'm psyched about that too. I do. I actually do. What's the commute like? Oh, fuck. An hour and a half every day, both ways? Yes. Yes. And it's all in person. But God. Damn it. I want that job, but it's all in person. Actually no, no summer I can be remote. Okay. Yeah, that's good. And I don't work holidays. It's at a university, right? No, it's at a nonprofit. Univer. Oh, you're thinking of the other one. That's three hours away where I would have to live there. Oh, yeah. Okay. Yeah, I know. husband's not thrilled about that. Oh, yeah, no, cause yeah. but this is your dream job. It is that one is definitely, but this one's dope as hell and I'm excited about it. So we'll see. Fingies crossed. Yep. I mean, you don't have to say like where, but like what would you be doing well, it's, you know, special ed is my thing, but [00:11:00] specifically, employment for young adults with disabilities. And so this would, I'd be the director of employment for this nonprofit. So it's exactly what I want to do. That's perfect.

Yeah. Yeah. So. Let's let's hope right. Let's put it in the universe. All right. So. Today, we kind of talked about this a little bit in our first episode, but we, um, We want to talk about. Our hopes and our dreams, you know, like our dream journals and shit. Well, it is it's dreams deferred. Because we put everything on hold. Yeah, right. Well, and you like right now, you have auditioned for this show. Your background is, I mean, Jesus, you have your masters in musical theater, but that's not what you've been doing. No, not even close. No. And so you've, you've tried to have these moments. Yeah, in that. Fit that shit in. But the reality is what you're a parent. You've got kids. You've got a husband. You've got a job. You've got. [00:12:00] parents you've got siblings. You've got shit, right? Like, yeah. My dream was to be on Broadway, right. I mean dumb as it sounds cause, uh, no, my kids doing that right now, so I totally get it. Well, it's not dumb for him because he's a legit. No, but, but yeah, you set out and you did, as he is, you did. I got, this was what you were doing close. I didn't get as close as some people that I know. but yeah, no, I mean and I, like I have a, a, a girl I worked with a long time ago, she was on Broadway. She was in Avenue Q. She quit to get a real job. Right. Because that's what we all do, right? Because like, Yeah. You accomplished something and then you move on to the next thing. Well, like it has never left me. No. Like, I wanna be on Broadway. I got an arthritic toe and a bad back but, um.

You know maybe when I'm 80 and trying to be on Broadway and arthritic toe and a bad bat will be just what the doctor ordered. Hey. They'll be like, "you're perfect!" There's a fuck ton of grandma [00:13:00] roles. So I, I think that that's there for you. No, but okay. So how, I guess that's what we want to talk about is how do you, how do you still hang on to that shit? But...mom, and wife, and job, and...First you pour some more wine. I know God, keep it coming. Which is why we have a Producer, but she's not doing her job. Well, actually, she's the producer. She's not the prop manager. The prop managers shirking. Yeah. No. She's got to dance tomorrow. You know, excuses, excuses. Poor the fucking wine. I know, you got to ride a horse tomorrow, I know. Yeah. Perfect. But, yeah, I don't. So I think. I think what I want to know is is the, you know what poodle I'm well, here, hold on. Well, you can drink. What I want to know is hang on two seconds. Yes. So little poodle puff. Don't walk away. She's going to, I know I'm going to [00:14:00] swallow this. Goddammit. Let me get my fucking words out. Is the community theater enough to scratch that itch.?To give you what you need. So ...yeah, but right now. We're fucking old as shit. No, no, no, no, but I, I know. Okay. Fine. You're right. No. Is it? No. No. Does it have to be for right now? Yeah. Because I got. But that's the, okay. So those are the words that scare the shit out of me - "right now." It's good for now. Oh, that's fine right now. Right. Tomorrow comes up real quick. Then we're in our fifties. How, how, how are we going to do that? How are we going to, oh, I'm chasing that. I'll, I'll get to that dream, then. I'll get to that. I never thought I would get to that dream. When I gave it up, I thought that was it. I'm done. I gave it up. I'm done. Were you okay with it then? I was okay with it then, because it was exhausted. Yeah. I was making $200 a week. I could barely eat. But I feel like this translates to every dream, [00:15:00] right? Like eventually, whatever it is, whether you want to be, you know, on Broadway or a tight rope walker or a fucking sous chef for whatever, like. I know, I know my husband would love to open a restaurant. Okay. Well, sometimes his food's not that good. So I want to talk to him about that. Now, you know what I really want to do? I want to open an Italian cafe. Like a legit Italian cafe. Dude, I would cook for that. Like we hardly have to cook. They make, like, toast. Yeah. JToast with cheese inside. Coffee. Like it's coffee. Okay. I need you to circ... I'm into that, but can you please circle back to your fucking dreams here? Well, that's. I know, but that's it too. Okay, so, so here's so. It's two parts. Like, do you feel like you're fulfilled with the community theater, but also don't you feel like...you have new dreams now, too? Like, I don't think that I would like I'm with you on the food thing. I would [00:16:00] fucking love to have like a breakfast and lunch place or something like that. Gluten-free, dairy-free. Yeah, because it would be good shit. And you can't find it anywhere. No, because every place sucks except for a couple of places. I would've never thought about that in my twenties. So yeah. That my dreams or whatever have fucking evolved too, but then for you, this is a dream that you've had forever since you were in high school. Yeah. And it's hard because I can't tell, like right now I'm like, nah, I'm fine. But I think it's because my back is hurting and I'm like, oh, I can't do this anyway. It's not going to happen. So it's hard to tell whether it's an I don't care or I don't think I can do it. Right. And like my husband's supportive. He has always said, like before we had kids, I was like, well, what if I went and did a tour? He's fine. Go do it. I never did it. I, I cock blocked my own dream. Because I was too chicken shit. but now, you know, when you got kids it changes, Well, and you have...You can't just run off. No, but I feel like [00:17:00] we have the balls now to do some shit that we wouldn't have done in our twenties. But now my body won't cooperate. No, and those balls are hanging low now. Saggy fucking balls. The closest I've gotten - I'm taking an adult tap class at my kid's dance studio.

I know, which is delightful. That's it. And I mean, we trav - traveling is another dream of mine. Yeah, this is a whole nother topic, cause we're both afraid to fly. Yeah. Fuck. You're doing so much better with that, than I am. Well, I mean, I got on the plane. Yeah. I went to the hospital when I landed. So, I don't know how much better I am. I completely traumatized husband and two children. Fuck him. Your girls though. I know. Yeah. They've been through a lot. My whole family's been through a lot, which we'll get into later. So dreams. No, I just, I feel like we're on a time clock now. Of course we are. We're going to die. Yeah, but what are your, like, what were your dreams? I don't know, because I think that my dreams have evolved, you know, I, I wanted to be on Broadway too. I wanted to do musical theater. I wanted to do opera. I wanted [00:18:00] to do all of those things. I didn't know you wanted to do opera. Oh yeah. I did that a little bit in college. I didn't know. Yeah, that's actually how I met...the first of my 10,000 husbands. We were in an opera together. You're going to be the old lady with 10,000 husbands. Me and Elizabeth Taylor fuck. You're done. This is the last one. Oh, God. Yeah. I'm not coming to any more weddings. No. And he's the best. To be fair, Dear Listener, I've only been to one of her weddings. But it was the important one. It's the only one that matters. That's the important one. The one that I had to miss turned out... oh, Oh, my God. Let's not even go.

So, you wanted to be on Broadway. Yeah, so I did. And, the, the special ed thing just happened. Why? Why did that happen? Okay. So as a kid, I don't want to be all like. I don't know, kumbaya, whatever. But as a kid, I did a lot of volunteering with the special ed classes, like in my school and stuff. It was always something that I used to go during recess and things and hang out with those kids. So I was always into it, but like, [00:19:00] not as a career or anything like that. Well then when the oldest was diagnosed with, autism spectrum, Oh, at that time, he was diagnosed with Asperger's which they don't, that's not a diagnosis anymore, but I, you know, was saturated with it. And so. Like to an untrained eye like me, I would never have known. He's super high functioning. You gave him...We did lots of therapy early on. I learned a lot of shit early on for him. And so we were, we were, he's very lucky. He's he's...learned a lot of coping skills, but it's fascinating. We I've, I still learn so much about that particular exceptionality through his eyes, because he can say to me how things feel and look, and, and seem from his perspective. So anyway, so with his...his shit, his journey. I that's how I even got into it anyway. And then I was teaching and then I was. a director at a private school than I was a principal. And, you know, but [00:20:00] always with special ed. So. I don't know. I think I would say that my dreams have evolved. Like, I wish that I had done something with music because that, that's my love language. That's the thing I care the most about, you know, me, I know every fucking song, every fucking band, every. It's not just musical theater. No, it's everything like a talent scout. Holy crap. That would be my thing. Yes. And I thought about it. I thought about going to school. Yeah. Like I really did, but then, you know.. Life. Really? Like, really? I'm in my forties. Like come on. so I, you know, I'm sticking with the sped thing and. But I am lying if I don't say that sometimes you have these panic moments, like, fuck. Is this it? Right? Is this really it? Am I really, it's kinda too late to do something different. So. You know, you just, oh, I do [00:21:00] care so much about what I do. So, so that's okay. But. Right. Damn. We don't get to do it over. And I think that's, that's the thing. And so it's, it's finding. Finding those moments to do things that you don't normally do, you know, finding... the community theater, the, I don't know, whatever, like that's, what I'm trying to do now is like have new experiences. Or if I want to try something, I fucking try it. Because because why not? Because, I mean, and, and we're kind of in a different place in our parenting, just because I'm like real fucking close to the finish line. You know, so I I'm able to kind of like go out and do things for me now that you're not really able to do yet. I'm not there quite yet. Yeah, we had kids a little bit late. Yeah. I mean, we didn't get married till, God,I don't remember I was 30. He was... No. I was young as fuck. yep. Yeah. And then we didn't have kids. well, I mean we had our [00:22:00] oldest a year later. Yeah. So yeah, like. We're not the youngest parents. We're not the oldest parents either.

NO, but that's it. I mean, When you become a parent. That's who you are, dude. We were fucking parent. It doesn't matter what you were. That's what you are. Yeah. And you have done if it doesn't know. And, and then you have the whole guilt thing, when you do shit for yourself, you feel like an asshole because you're not with your kids. You're not experiencing what they're doing, you're doing your own thing. And I. You know, we all fucking hear that you need the me time. You need to, to be your best self, to be your best parent, blah, blah, blah. But ultimately, you feel like a dick, if you do something for yourself. If your cup's not completely empty you feel like a shitty mom? That is 100% true. The one thing that got me through that a little bit was reminding myself. Maybe it was just a lie. But it was reminding myself that I was modeling to cause I've daughters no [00:23:00] modeling to my children. Right. To my daughters. That moms get to care of themselves too. Yeah.

I still felt like shit, but at least I could tell myself you're modeling. No that they needed. Yeah, they need to take care of themselves and they need to. Have their own identity. Which I still. I've gotten better about it. And, you know, like I said, my husband's very supportive of that. He's always been supportive of that. I have hamstrung myself. But I think the best thing that we can do is talk about this shit because when we like breathe life into it, then we're acknowledging like this shit is hard. This shit is important. We, we need to prioritize, you know, moments for ourselves and our identity and all of those kinds of things and not feel shitty about it, you know? And I think it's especially hard when your kids are like toddlers and stuff. Oh, no. And they need you for everything. Yeah. [00:24:00] Yeah. But this is another reason why we started this podcast. No, we did. Because nobody's talking about. No, I, I,

Bad stuff. And I don't, I don't think that everybody says the bad stuff. It's okay. To, to feel lost and like, I mean, how about, think about like our texts and shit, like, like, holy shit, I can't do this. Like oh, I hate everything.

90% of our texts are either I hate everyone or I hate everything. Right.

But you have to be able to say that.

And there's just not enough. I've got a lot of friends, right. No, I don't really care for people in the way that you do, but I get what you're saying. But I have friends, but I've very few that I can be like, Everything in my life fucking sucks right now. Oh yeah. Please tell me not to jump off a bridge, right, because you got to put on a face for a lot of people. Well, and I just think. [00:25:00] As a society that we just do that a lot. Right. And I don't want to do that. I don't want to be like, whoa. Culturally and societal. But, but. I, I think we all try too fucking hard sometimes like just. Say what you're really feeling and thinking. Yes. Fuck you guys. Fuck this. Fuck parents. Fuck. I wonder if it was different before, like Facebook and Instagram. It was because we're not documenting every fucking breath that we take. We're so narcissistic now. My grandmother's life. Yeah. That's okay. Like. I know some things. Yeah. She probably wrote some shit down in a journal that she fucking burned or something like, you know. These people that keep their journals for 20 years and then go back and reread them. They were not honest in those journals or they would have burned them. No, and I, who. Why are you reading your own journal? It's like looking at. No, nobody wants to, you know, it's like a car wreck. Nobody don't look at that. Nobody wants to see [00:26:00] that, but you're right. They're not being honest. Well, I think the best thing that we can do is just own how we feel and try to make it better if we can. And start a podcast. Wow. I mean this is scratchin my itch. No, I don't know. I don't know my itches change. I know. Right? Like don't you feel like. Oh, I want to try this. I'm going to do this. Ooh, maybe a ... You finally hit a point in your life where maybe you have enough money to try the things. True. True. You're not living like...your body doesn't want to do the things that. I know.

So. You ready to grab the bag? Grab the bag. And find out what we're doing today. Okay. Is going to produce. She's producing, she's producing the goods. Okay, here we go. All right. oh, look. Stuff we hate. God damn. That's my favorite. Listen, I will be here till tomorrow talking about shit that I hate. [00:27:00] Okay. So what do you hate? Stuff we hate. I hate. So many things. I hate, I hate closed minded people. Oh my God. Shut up. Do something like. I mean, that is, I know okay. Can you please say something superficial that you hate? I'm sorry, what do I hate? why don't you start. Okay. I have one because the motherfucker at the gas station today said this to me. And it pisses me off. Every time. I, you know, I'm a delight, I'm a fucking delight. Okay. So.

We'll call him Brian. So I fucking go up, you know, is rolling. Yeah, I do. And I'm not going to say it because I saw it on the tag. Okay. Oh, he worked there. Okay. Yeah. So, Brian, Hey, how's your day. Brian you suck. To me. Oh yeah. Okay. Okay. So, Hey Maxine, how's your day. Good. How's yours, Brian. Oh, you know, just living the [00:28:00] dream. Go ahead. Living the dream. I fucking hate when people say living the dream. Are you Brian? Are you really listen. It is. The work that Brian does is super, super important. Thank you. Thank you. All of that, but really the gas station living the dream really. That's really what, when you were dreaming as a small Brian boy. You were like, I want to work at that fucking gas station. Okay, dude. And again, no offense. No. No, I'm, I'm not... But Brian, come on. Seriously. So he's living the dream and I want to punch him when he says shit like that. Okay. That was my stuff we hate. Oh man, that's...aw shit. Now it's my turn. Okay. You were doing these like big worldly world peace shit. No, like right in front of your face. Okay. Also I don't like that my refrigerator, my microwave are two different colors of blue. Ooh. Yeah, that's bad when shit doesn't match. Yeah. [00:29:00] Okay, what do I hate? Child number one over there, what do I hate?

Don't say stupid stuff. So something trivial. Thanks. I hate everything. And why can't I think of anything? oh, I hate getting gas. Oh, yeah. But it doesn't tell it. Doesn't. No, I get my own gas. You know that dent in my car? That's cause I got gas.

That's right. I wasn't paying attention and I hit something.

Yeah, I hate getting gas too, I mean, Brian was bad, but no, because now. The pumps don't work. Right. The pump, please see cashier, excuse me. No, I'm going somewhere else by also, do you know what I hate? Ok, here's something I hate. My husband thinks we'll spend less money if he puts less money into the checking account.

I forgot about that. So he pays himself. So yeah. Yeah. So, he pays himself not as much as we spend. Yeah. But he does it on purpose because he thinks if we get [00:30:00] low, we'll just stop spending money. That's not what happens. You know what happens? I text him and go "I just used the credit card to get gas."

Hold on. That's what happens. Actually, I have a story about this shit. So we were at Moffitt. Oh, yes, because,Surprise - I had cancer. Yes, we're going to talk about that. We're going to talk about your cancer, but we were there. We went to a drive through place to get some food. And you. Did I try to buy food and there was no money? It was, it was that place that you love that had, the Greek? Yes, the Greek place. So we went to get. And your fucking debit card was declined. Declined. We are doing your cancer treatments and you can't get your fucking Greek food because your husband didn't put money in the account. I was, that was my favorite thing in the whole world. It's not. The money's there. He just doesn't put it in the account. Right in. So embarrassing. Yeah. Yeah, no, we were there. I'm like, what the fuck is happening? Your card got declined. Then I just use the credit card. Yeah. Wow. He's [00:31:00] an idiot, but that was, I saw that firsthand. I hate that. I also hate the Walmart parking lot. Oh. Walmart period. No offense friends, no offense. Offense. Walmart sucks, but it is God, it's rough. I get so mad if I have to go there. My mother-in-law who is the kindest, gentlest, most patient woman...She's nice...in the world hates Walmart. Here's the thing you. You can't find anything. You have like crack heads in the aisle, you have dirty diapers, you have people beating their kids. You, you know, you're stepping over things. You have people wearing their whale tail swimsuits. Yeah, I know. And they have their jammies on and it's dirty. It's always dirty. There's always some guy on like a crane thing and like a fucking pallet. Cause they're moving the dog food from there to there. I it's too overwhelming for me. I get overstimulated. I hate, I hate shopping for tween clothing. Ooh, that is tough. Especially because my actual teen who is [00:32:00] 14, doesn't want all the pink, girly frilly shit. Well, but it's not even that they all dress like strippers. She doesn't want to dress like a stripper. Or you have to wear Lulu lemon leggings. And some sort of crop top. She wants shorts. Yeah, cause it's a fucking million degrees here all the time. She wants shorts that don't show off her kibbles and bits. No. Good luck. She does not want crop tops. No. But that's all there is. And they're all...Unless you show in the boys section and it doesn't fit her because she's not a boy. No, but that's, they're, they're all sheep too. As part of the problem, like everybody has to wear the same thing. I mean, I think we were like that, were you not like that? No, I wasn't. Listen. I was a trendsetter. Okay. I still am. So no, I was not a fucking sheep.

Well, I think that we have covered a lot of ground. Yeah, I think that we listed enough things that we hate, although we [00:33:00] definitely could spend the next 24 hours talking about it more. That's basically what our friendship is based on.

Hey, I hate this. Don't you hate this? Yes, no. But I think you just get grouchier as you get older, right? Isn't this what happens? We're going to become our grandfathers. You get permission to be grouchy. You know, my dad always says that, which my dad is, you know, a loose cannon anyway, but he. But he says that too, like, you don't need permission to say shit anymore. You just know. Fucking say it. For years, like, as you go. Yeah, but I feel like we're there. Giving shit. You stop. Are we there? Is that where we are? I'm not quite there. I'm getting, very close, though. Maybe I've always been there. No, no, no.

Well anyway. We want to thank our one listener for listening, right. Yes, we have a couple. No. . Yes. So now, so thanks friends. Yep. Yeah. Thanks. Thanks everybody. Well. We'll see you guys [00:34:00] next week and, and remember... What? A midlife crisis is more fun with friends. It is. Cheers.